"Do you want me to do your job for you?" - Chat life with us

Chat life with Emily and Ashley as they get into: Why the internet should go away, how they don't understand what jobs people have, what movies they will always watch if they are on and how Ashley's mom accidentally ended up with an adult film on her television. We will also let you in on what we are currently reading. 

Show notes: 
0-1:00 Intro 
2:00-4:00 What do our husbands even do? 
5:00 Why the internet should go away forever
9:00 WHAT Is Emily reading and why is it so predictable
13:00 The Perfect Couple Chat 
14:00 If this movie was on what would we watch?
19:00 "Our kids don't even know how to wait in line."
21:00 Ashley's mom accidentally ending up on an adult film channel

https://www.skylightframe.com/

https://www.amazon.com/Appetite-Innocence-Dark-Psychological-Thriller-ebook/dp/B06XFSJ196 (book Ashley just finished) 

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-lodge-sue-watson/1144180456 (book Emily is reading) 

Transcript

Em and Ash BS Chat

 Hi, I'm Emily. I'm Ashley, and this is books with your besties. Do you need me to do your psychology job for you? Do you mind? I can do it. That'd be amazing. Thank you so much. Who was I with? I was with. I was with Christina and Kelly. I can use their names, that they're fine. I was with them, and we were talking about our spouses and how we start this story over. This is a real story that I just haven't told ya. Um, so you know that Christina took Kelly and I to the Allison restaurant for our birthdays. Like, our birthdays were this summer, but Christina lives her best life in summer, so you just don't see her. She's just out living life. So she took us to breakfast, and we were talking about our husbands, who we adore, but just. We are used to how they are at home. And we started. We started laughing so hard because we were like, how? How do they have jobs and like and our, you know, like my husband, who is this introvert, super quiet unless he is super comfortable around you. Part of his job was these huge presentations to super important people. And I'm just like, how is that you at work? And now, like with your job, I'm like, I just want to be a mouse in a corner sometimes and watch the people I love doing their jobs. Well, I'm so unserious with my friendships. You probably think, gosh, she's so dumb, how could she possibly have an actual job where she has to do work? It's a thing they they let me. Now that we are of the age where we literally have friends whose kids are going to college, I'm going to find out who's coming to your university and make them report back as to how good of a professor you are. Yeah. Um, I know I'm excited to teach this term. I haven't been in the classroom for a year because I've been doing administrative stuff. Chair stuff. But I get to be in the classroom with students this first term, and I can't wait. I go on Thursday. We were talking yesterday. This is a total side note, but we were talking yesterday about how my cousin is a teacher and this is the first class to her. She has said it's it has felt normal since the pandemic because these are kids who were before school age when the pandemic started and she was asking about college age kids and if they feel like it's kind of getting back to normal with having students in and how that is socially. No. Yeah, it's definitely not back to normal. I mean, we have ten more years before the kids are weren't impacted, you know. Yeah. So they all had some big lapse in their education and their social development. Not to say that they're not socially proficient. They're really awesome. But I do see differences in the young people now from how they used to be. And I also think a lot of that is out of their control. But the. Biggest thing is, um, they have a little bit of a harder time with sort of grit or resilience, and I think maybe they just don't have any reserves to give. Yeah, they got overloaded young. They've experienced kind of more adversity than a lot of us did when we were younger. Just hard, hard things to process and deal with. And I don't know, things have just changed. I'm sure that so much of it is to do with access to the internet, which I no longer approve of at all. I wish we would get rid of these altogether. So two things on our interview that we just did with, um, the author of All the Colors of the dark, he talked about how his book was set in the 70s and 80s in the beginning, and he loved doing that on purpose, because it was before the internet. And just like how we got a laugh because he's I said, you know, my best friend and I just talked and said, if we could do away with the internet, we would. And then he was like, well, how would we have done our interview? I'm like, well, also that, but it's not the whole internet, right? It's almost like I want apps to that are safe to survive. Like I love podcasts, I think regulated podcasts not regulated, not like censored, but just they regulate it now, right? Like it has to be approved for you to get a podcast. Um, so somebody is out there listening and making sure that it is something to put on their platform. Um, I think that's great. And then you can get information lots of ways. What I don't like is just the unfettered access that how can you tell what's real and not real anymore? How can you tell what's a good source and not a good source? I mean, internet literacy is impossible. I can't figure it out what's real and not real in terms of videos like I, I can't spot it. I mean, sometimes it's really obvious, but I just watched a video where there were like multiple which ones I which ones not, and I couldn't tell. I really wasn't sure when you just get a very small clip of something, so it makes it seem like someone said something and then they actually didn't. Um, so there's that piece of things. There's also just all of the horrible, disgusting stuff online. Right? And the the way that also senior citizens and other populations can be taken advantage of. I told you about the woman at the pharmacy who yelled at the pharmacist because he told her from a medical perspective, you don't need this particular thing she was trying to get. And she was yelling at him that the internet said she did. And I was just sitting there thinking, you have someone who went to school for a decade telling you, you're fine, you don't need this, and you're literally saying out of your mouth. The internet said, I did like just the internet. Yeah, yeah. Not great. Um, back to the pandemic, just for a second, because there was a gal there who was single and she said, dating hasn't been the same. It's just harder to get people out to socialize. She's like, people just got comfortable being home. But my cousin, who's a teenager said, you know, she had to teach from home. And she goes, I was quite alarmed at how much I just enjoyed being home by myself. She's like that. That took me by surprise. Do you think that was kind of alarming? To discover about myself. There were parts of it that I miss. Not much. Not the people dying. I'm sorry I said that. That was horrible. But I miss how we didn't always have a billion things to do every single day. I feel like right now I'm like, okay, I have to run and get a gift for this birthday party that that we have to go to before we go to soccer practice, before we go to the next thing. It's just thing after thing every day. Yeah. And our lives get so busy and booked up that we can't. We don't have a moment to breathe. And I'm so overwhelmed by the mental load of all of that too. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. I also miss some of the, I guess, intentionality, if that's a word of that time where you were like, I really need to decide who I want to spend time, energy, and effort on because it's literally like a safety health, just bigger picture risk. And now I don't know just exactly what you're saying. I'm like, life is moving too fast right now, and I feel like we don't get any quality time as just the four of us. I'm just torn, feeling like in a million different directions all the time because there's so many demands on us and so many people to please and things to do and saying yes to everything. And I know I could just say no more, but you can't always and there's there's considerations of what everybody else is up to. And you want your kids to have those experiences to or yourself to have experiences. Yeah, I know I like it, but the mental load part is just really hard. I feel like I actually, you know, we should be sponsored by skylight because I got the skylight calendar. Everything. I keep looking to figure out a way to, like, be like, can't someone pay me for knowing about this, this calendar? I know it's the best thing ever, because. And I made you get it. And I'm gonna make everyone in my life get one. Because I look at it 20 times a day. Every time I go into the kitchen to get a cup of coffee and like, what is it I have tomorrow? And today again, like, what is what is coming? Oh that's right. Okay. That's coming up. It's so great. I love it so much. And I love that this does sound like an ad now, but it just syncs to the school calendar. It syncs to the soccer calendar, so I don't have to type anything in. It just puts it there. And then I just have to look. Yes. And like I can see it on my phone. I can see it when I'm out anywhere. It's like it's all over. It goes on to Steve's calendar so he can see it. I love it. Okay. Yes. By a skylight. Sponsored not by Ashley or Emily, the sponsor for our podcast, skylight. We, uh, make no dollars off of you getting it, so just do it. We do like it. I want to talk about what I'm reading and tell you about it because you're going to laugh. Oh, God. Okay. I am reading The Lodge by Sue Watson, which I had never read anything by Sue Watson. Obviously she is not American, which is a one of my favorites, right? I just love anyone who's from like the UK or Australia writing books. I just enjoy it so much and it's guess what kind of book it is? It doesn't sound like historical fiction, which is something you would read. And we just did Kristen Hannah. So it can't be another like rip your Heart out book. My second guess would be the most predictable professor doctor reader book of all time, which is something sat in a cabin in the snow where you have no cell phone access and someone is either already dead or going to die, correct? Yes. Someone already dead or going to die. Nobody's dying yet. I'm really early in the book, but I'm really enjoying it already. And this is my favorite kind. As some of you know. And people make fun of me all the time, for I will read any book set in the snow in a larger cabin, or something like locked door where you have a set of people and people are dying. Yeah, no cell phone reception, nobody brought a charging cord. And there's, you know, there's no possible access to the outside world. It just makes sense. You go on vacation and they're like, the Wi-Fi is down, the power is out, the roads are closed there. There's parking. Your car died. You brought a car here that worked when you got here, it no longer works. Yes. Nobody has an external kind of device to get any kind of service. No. Or anything. The satellite phone. We've never heard of that. It's the best. And usually somewhere in the book, it. Then people start making stupid decisions where two people decide to go out in the snow and you're like, they're not coming back like that. That was an odd choice. Yeah. So they're like, I heard a strange noise that sounded like someone saying, come and die. So I went to investigate. What? What are you what are you talking about? You an investigator? You're. Never mind. I'm always too. It's like they're getting picked off one by one. Why would you ever go anywhere separate from the group? I'd be like, guess what? All eight of us are going to the bathroom. Someone's got to go potty. Oh my God, maybe they're going to kill more people. You're going to do it in front of everybody, okay? I haven't started anything new because I just finished appetite for innocence, which we need to talk about at a later date. I finished it, I couldn't. That book was absolutely insane. Well, I just looked and our and our chat with Lucinda is on Thursday at nine. Oh, okay. Good, I thought I finished it. I have so many questions for her about how she comes up with these things. I know I'm I'm really excited to talk to her about it too. That was a wonderful book. And I actually the second that I finished it, I bought when she returned. Oh, that was the other choice that our book club members wanted us to read for our read with us. And I was like, I know I'm going to read this. Like I have to get through all of her books because they're just so good. The only one I haven't read that everyone raves about is Phantom Limb, which is maybe one of her first ones. Well, I want to read that too. I've I've got to read them all. I mean, she has quite a lot of books and I've only read maybe four of them. And so I just I'm so torn by so many authors. I just am like, okay, I've got to finish the whole set. I've got to read all the Lucinda Barry's, especially before our retreat in February and hanging out with her again and before she turns out, another one, because she has books coming out like an absolute madwoman right now. I know, I'm so excited, I love it. I'm just going to reinforce that with her. Like you keep writing, lady. Can we talk about not books, but about Netflix? Did you finish Perfect Couple? Did you? I did, you did, did you? Yeah I did, yeah, I liked it. I liked it a lot. The story was fun. It was engaging. I just I saw a comment on your post about it somewhere on our social media and somebody said, terrible casting and I totally agree. Terrible casting. Yeah, we can we can talk about that one. One particular cast member that I don't like in anything. Well and I'm sorry that it's leave Schreiber. Mhm. They were like everybody wants to have sex with him. Um it was a, it was just an odd choice for me for that. Like I could see that maybe he's got some kind of rugged attractiveness. But his character in that, I just could not see it as, oh yeah, everybody's into him. Also, when did Dakota Fanning grow up and become an adult? It took me until the end of it to be like, That's Dakota Fanning lately was the pregnant woman is Dakota Fanning. I thought she was still 10 or 11. Oh, I didn't recognize her at all. I didn't know it was her. I also thought she was an odd choice for that. Anyway, anyway, it was an interesting book, but interesting casting. Yeah. And the main girl, I thought she was a strange choice. I just there was nobody in it that I was like, oh yeah, they're playing that role just as I would picture it. It's perfect. It just was odd to me in that way. Or the character, you know, um, honor all the colors of the dark interview he did. You know, they're making that into a miniseries, like a three part. Yeah, yeah. And he was talking about how he knows a few of the people he wants to play certain roles, but he feels too close to the two main characters. Patch in saying he's like, I couldn't cast them because I'm too close to them. Like, those characters are a piece of me now, so I can't move far enough away to be able to cast them. So he's like, I'll be excited to see who you know. A casting director picks. I love that so much, I know. Told them. I don't know if you do arcs for mini series, but like if he wanted to send it to us first, we would watch it and let them know if we liked it. He's like, I don't I don't know that they do do that. I always end those and I'm like, we were the author's favorite interview. That was fun. Even if they just come from like, the Today Show, I'm like, I think we were their favorite the way we're at. No, I like that. I, I love when a book becomes a series and going to watch it. You and I watched Blackwater Lane, which was fun to watch and really true to the book, which is based off of BA Paris's The Breakdown. So if you've read that, go watch Blackwater Lane, which I think we had to pay for. Yes, like five bucks on Amazon Prime or something to watch the other one that felt pretty true to the book. I have it right here that I thought was good was Luckiest Girl Alive. Oh yeah, that was very, very well done on a dark movie. I, I don't mind, um, movie adaptation. I'm not one of those who hates the movie. Every time. I think it's always just fun to watch. Oh, okay. You get. You get to guess. Um, yesterday I had a little bit of quiet time for myself, which is very rare, but I put on a movie, so you'll know because it's your favorite movie to watch. The proposal? Yes, yes. Did you watch the whole thing? Oh, yeah, I I've watched it probably 20 times. It's funny every single time I love it and the casting is so good in it. So I was just thinking about casting and um, what are the best movies though? The proposal it is. It's the best. It's such a good. If it's on, I'll just watch it. But, you know, my husband also has those types of movies, so mine are like, if the proposals on I'm watching that Field of dreams, I'm watching that all like feel good his or like Shawshank Redemption, Black Hawk Down the other night he we get in bed. It's 1030. Zero dark 30 had just started. He goes, well, I guess I'm going to stay up to one in the morning. I'm like, why are these the movies? Like? Men and Women are very different in those choices because I'm the same way. Field of dreams. It's one of my top, and I just had my kids watch it. They loved it. Also the proposal. Yes, always. And Notting Hill for me. Yes. But yeah, that's what men I mean I'm dated. I remember in college dating someone who was like, well, my favorite movies, Braveheart and I mean Braveheart is really good. Like it is way up there at the top, but it is not one that you just like. Comfort watch. At least for me. Do you remember what the first movie was that you like? Maybe I'm the only person that has this memory, but do you remember the first movie you saw where you, like, hysterically cried? Where you either had to, like, walk out of the movie, pause it, or just like, stop watching it for a second. I don't remember what was yours. Mine's dead man walking. I had to leave the theater. I was like, I had never saw like that in a movie or, you know, I think actually, you know, I do remember, I think I went with my dad to see Titanic when I was in high school, and I remember crying afterwards a lot. Not for the actual storyline, but for the tragedy that it was. Yeah, just it was one of those like early like, wow, this is there are these just mass casualty events and so many innocent lives lost. And was it preventable? Yeah. I like going to movies with my parents. I missed doing that with my dad. I bet you do. Yeah. I don't want him to get tickets for Lord of the rings. I'm like, I don't think either of us liked those movies. Maybe we just like being together. But why did we choose for our trilogies? I love that you did that together. My dad was just talking about when he was visiting that he would get us the new, newest Harry Potter. Right when it came out, he had stand in line for hours and then bring it to us at like midnight, because it would come out at midnight and he'd bring it to us and put it next to our bed for us to wake up in the morning, too. That's so sweet. Isn't that cute? Well, so kids these days don't know about waiting in line or waiting for anything, really. Like anything. I mean some, but not really. I was I try to tell my kids that I'm like, every show had commercials in it and you could only watch it at the time it was on. so every time a commercial came on, it would be like, hey, jump up and go do the thing you want to do. Go get your snack, go pack your backpack, whatever it is that you need to do. If you're watching a show because you have 2.5 minutes of commercials or three minutes, and if you miss it, it's gone forever. Like on forever, an episode of saved by the Bell, you could never watch it again. It's gone forever. Well, Saved By the Bell is not the best example. They rerun that like every five seconds and they always did. But yeah, there was no I. Yeah. And just waiting on the line for like concert tickets, movie tickets like hours at a time. Now they just hop online and the tickets just come to their phone. I'm like, you guys. Anyway, I sound so old right now, I do too, but I'm willing to go back to that whole system to get rid of the horrible stuff on the internet. Yeah, I am too, too much access. We just have too much access. Like, go ahead, let's keep DoorDash. That's fine. That's people's livelihoods. That's all good you can still get. Your groceries delivered. You can text, but do we need to be able to go onto a dark web for any reason? Really? Well, you know, even the iPads my kids have at school did not have the types of protections on them you would think, like there were students who were in elementary school getting in trouble for things they were searching on YouTube. But I was like, why do they have this capability? Like they're these there's no reason to have a YouTube on an iPad in a for a classroom setting, right? I agree, I didn't understand that at all. It's almost like it's so far out of control, though, that they can't even reel it in anymore. Like, how do you have those settings to block everything? I mean, I think you can lock that, but it's so concerning. Did you know that I was reading something the other day and I don't know the source and I don't know where I heard this, so we're just going to call this a rumor, okay. But that most children have seen pornography by like 10 or 12 years old. Now, I don't have I have heard that and I but I want to pretend like I haven't. So it's terrifying. Yeah. Although you know that my. You know that my children accidentally saw it at my parents house when my mom was talking to her. Alexa. And she's fine with me telling the story. I've told it online before Durham was over and she pulled up, uh, Amazon Prime, and it was on kids movies and we were leaving, and she wanted it to go back to, like, her adult profile, you know, to take off their profile. And she goes, Alexa, show me adult movies. Stop it. Oh, here it is. So then, luckily, nobody saw anything. We ran and just, like, yelled Alexa off, like, turn it off. And because she's my mom, she had no idea what she had just done. And she said, Alexa, turn on adult movie. That is so funny. Oh my gosh. Well that's great. Okay, I dropped my microphone. Yeah, on the internet. And kids that can go away. Okay, well, we're all caught up We'll catch up with you guys again in two weeks. Hope you enjoyed chatting with us. Eight eight. Thanks for listening. For more content, find us on Patreon at the Creepy Book Club. Happy reading!